{"id":332,"date":"2015-05-28T18:42:00","date_gmt":"2015-05-28T18:42:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/coyotebroad.com\/blawg\/2015\/05\/28\/the-real-me-on-social-media\/"},"modified":"2015-05-28T18:42:00","modified_gmt":"2015-05-28T18:42:00","slug":"the-real-me-on-social-media","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/coyotebroad.com\/blawg\/2015\/05\/28\/the-real-me-on-social-media\/","title":{"rendered":"The real me on social media"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>On a very popular social networking platform that requires users to use their real names and does not permit users to have multiple accounts, I have two accounts.<\/p>\n<p>If this company ever discovers that I have two accounts, I will be asked to delete one of them &#8211; or they will do it for me.<\/p>\n<p>One of my accounts has my real name, plus a word to indicate that this is an account that represents me as a specialist in my chosen field. The other account doesn\u2019t spell my real name correctly, but my friends on that account know it\u2019s me. Each account&nbsp;lists me as living in a different city &#8211; one is Portland, and one is the town where I actually live, about 30 minutes away. I&#8217;m hoping those differences in the two accounts will continue to fool the company&#8217;s algorithms, as well as search engines regarding searches of my name.<\/p>\n<p>Why did I create two accounts? Because as soon as I got on the Internet back in the early 1990s, I knew that online activities are the same as publishing, and that while a case can be made that email communications are private, it\u2019s hard to do the same for a message posted on an online community, even a supposedly private one.<\/p>\n<p>Also, I have always understood that people have two personas &#8211; the one that they share publicly with co-workers or fellow members of a group, and the one that is for very close friends and family. Sure, there&#8217;s overlap, but the reality is that I don&#8217;t necessarily want my co-workers to know what a Harry Potter fanatic I am. I may love posting a photo of myself for my friends where I look great &#8211; but I&#8217;m holding a beer, and that might put off many of my work colleagues, particularly in religiously-conservative countries.<\/p>\n<p>I became very happy that I created two personas online for other reasons as well: when I work in public relations and marketing, my public speech is as a representative of a company or program, and when I work for humanitarian organizations, I am mandated to be politically neutral in public speech. My public, professional persona meets the standards of most of these agencies &#8211; my private, friends-only persona most certainly would not.<\/p>\n<p>My biggest problem in all this? It&#8217;s not that someone will hack my personal account, though I wouldn&#8217;t like that if they did. No, my biggest problem in all this is that my public online persona on the very popular social networking platform is SO boring. It\u2019s milquetoast. I cannot be controversial, I cannot be political &#8211; I cannot be truly ME. I\u2019ve tried to jazz it up on occasion, posting about, say, a motorcycle trip. Or my dog or cat. And I\u2019ve followed the advice on <a href=\"http:\/\/coyotecommunications.com\/coyoteblog\/2015\/05\/21\/controversy\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">this blog, about how to endorse an idea but remain politically neutral.<\/a> But my public profile remains boring. I certainly wouldn&#8217;t follow it. And, to be honest, my friends on that account &#8211; mostly professional colleagues and neighbors, as well as family&nbsp;members that couldn&#8217;t handle the <i>real<\/i> me &#8211; are also rather boring, rarely posting anything that makes me want to have an online discussion, that provokes thought, that really educations, etc.. I don\u2019t rush to read the account, let alone post to it. I&#8217;m there more because I have to be, because of my work, rather than because I want to be. <\/p>\n<p>I often think celebrities have the opposite problem. Someone like, say, <a href=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/SteveMartinofficial\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Steve Martin<\/a>, who online, and in his professional life, is hilarious and irreverent, but in his private life, probably loves to leave that persona behind and be just a nice, calm guy. Me &#8211; I have to be nice and calm on my professional persona online, being oh-so-careful re: anything and everything I say. And it takes all of the fun out of social media, truly.<\/p>\n<p>(I suspect that&nbsp;<a href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/NathanFillion\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Nathan Fillion<\/a> is exactly the same person online as he is offline&#8230;)<\/p>\n<p>So, if you follow me on my private account on that certain social media platform, good for you: it means you know the real me. It means I\u2019m being myself with you online. I know I rant a lot on that account &#8211; about human rights, against pseudo science, about politics, and on and on. I tell off-color jokes. I use language that would make a sailor blush. But it&#8217;s <i>me<\/i>. The authentic me. Enjoy!<\/p>\n<p>If you follow me on my public account&#8230; well, don&#8217;t be offended. The reality is that you shouldn&#8217;t even know this blog exists&#8230; but if you do, and you are a friend on my public account, it&#8217;s probably because we work together or have worked together. And I like to keep work and volunteering online activities separate from my political rants and inappropriate humor.<\/p>\n<p>And someday, I\u2019m going to win the lottery and get to delete that professional account and rant publicly all I want.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>On a very popular social networking platform that requires users to use their real names and does not permit users to have multiple accounts, I have two accounts. If this company ever discovers that I have two accounts, I will be asked to delete one of them &#8211; or they will do it for me. 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