{"id":390,"date":"2014-03-18T15:49:00","date_gmt":"2014-03-18T15:49:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/coyotebroad.com\/blawg\/2014\/03\/18\/say-anything\/"},"modified":"2014-03-18T15:49:00","modified_gmt":"2014-03-18T15:49:00","slug":"say-anything","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/coyotebroad.com\/blawg\/2014\/03\/18\/say-anything\/","title":{"rendered":"Say anything"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>And following up to my blog yesterday about <a href=\"http:\/\/jayneblawg.blogspot.com\/2014\/03\/lets-have-more-annoying-questions.html\">supposedly &#8220;annoying&#8221; questions<\/a>&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>As many of you know, in 1996, my father died. In fact, he killed himself. It remains the deepest, darkest chasm in the landscape of my family&#8217;s life, amid a lot of other vast, dark spaces.<\/p>\n<p>A lot of friends and colleagues said a lot of things to me during that experience. And I don&#8217;t consider any of the comments wrong or inappropriate, even the ones that made me uncomfortable. And there were a LOT that made me uncomfortable. But I also know that every one of those comments came from a place of love or caring, or the speakers&#8217; own fears and insecurity. To reach out to someone that&#8217;s going through a traumatic time can be a <i>very<\/i> scary thing, and I would never punish anyone who put his or her own fears or sadness or discomfort aside in order to saying something &#8211; anything &#8211; to me in such a time. I cherish anyone who cares, even if they don&#8217;t show it in a way I would like.<\/p>\n<p>The next time you cringe at someone who asks you a question or makes a comment about something happening in your life, particularly something very personal and\/or traumatic, try to think about where the person is coming from. Is it truly from a place of criticism or mockery? Then, by all means, speak out. But if it&#8217;s from a place of caring, of love, or even of fear or ignorance, consider not lashing out or cringing &#8211; consider appreciating it as a gift.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>And following up to my blog yesterday about supposedly &#8220;annoying&#8221; questions&#8230; As many of you know, in 1996, my father died. In fact, he killed himself. It remains the deepest, darkest chasm in the landscape of my family&#8217;s life, amid a lot of other vast, dark spaces. A lot of friends and colleagues said a [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-390","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/coyotebroad.com\/blawg\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/390","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/coyotebroad.com\/blawg\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/coyotebroad.com\/blawg\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/coyotebroad.com\/blawg\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/coyotebroad.com\/blawg\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=390"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/coyotebroad.com\/blawg\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/390\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/coyotebroad.com\/blawg\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=390"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/coyotebroad.com\/blawg\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=390"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/coyotebroad.com\/blawg\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=390"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}